Hi... My name is Lauren Nelson, I am here to talk a little about adoption. I am a Birth Mother. Basically this is a woman who had a baby but is no longer their parent. I would like tell you about my story and hopefully this will help some woman who cannot figure out what to do.
I had never been very lucky when it came to picking the right person to be with. I guess I didn't think that I was good enough to be with a "nice" man. I fell for a person who was all wrong for me and when I was 18 I found out I was pregnant. This was probally the scariest news I have ever received in my life. What the HELL was I going to do? I went to my mother and she was rational and gave me some options on how to proceed. First she talked about abortion. Now, I am not putting anyone down who thinks this is a good or appropriate idea I just do not believe in this option myself. The next option was adoption. At first I was not even going to think of this. But the more and more that I thought about how I was going to raise the baby I realized that I was unable to give the baby the life I know she deserved. I finally told my mom that I would talk to the adoption agency and I would take things one step at a time. Now, I know what most of you are thinking, 18 is a pretty good age to raise a baby. Most people think that 14 maybe 15 is adoption age, but in my case I was a very immature 18 year old. I was a major party animal and I didn't care about anyone but myself. Therefore, for me it was just like being 14 or 15. I went in to talk to a worker at LDS Family Services ( there are many places to check out before deciding which agency to go to but this is the one I chose) and realized that this is not the worst scenario. The worker gave me about 15 "profiles" to look at. (A profile is a folder put together by the people who wish to adopt of their life in a nutshell. There may be pictures of the family and a breakdown of what the couple do for a living, their age, their race, ect.) The feeling was so strong about the family that I decided to choose that it was unreal. Not all feelings are going to be like this but mine was. I had a very easy pregnancy and the family was by my side every step of the way. The more I get into the breakdown of the experience I will explain in depth what I went through and how my life was effected for the better.
I hope you come back soon, I am very excited to help the women who are just as scared as I was!
I had never been very lucky when it came to picking the right person to be with. I guess I didn't think that I was good enough to be with a "nice" man. I fell for a person who was all wrong for me and when I was 18 I found out I was pregnant. This was probally the scariest news I have ever received in my life. What the HELL was I going to do? I went to my mother and she was rational and gave me some options on how to proceed. First she talked about abortion. Now, I am not putting anyone down who thinks this is a good or appropriate idea I just do not believe in this option myself. The next option was adoption. At first I was not even going to think of this. But the more and more that I thought about how I was going to raise the baby I realized that I was unable to give the baby the life I know she deserved. I finally told my mom that I would talk to the adoption agency and I would take things one step at a time. Now, I know what most of you are thinking, 18 is a pretty good age to raise a baby. Most people think that 14 maybe 15 is adoption age, but in my case I was a very immature 18 year old. I was a major party animal and I didn't care about anyone but myself. Therefore, for me it was just like being 14 or 15. I went in to talk to a worker at LDS Family Services ( there are many places to check out before deciding which agency to go to but this is the one I chose) and realized that this is not the worst scenario. The worker gave me about 15 "profiles" to look at. (A profile is a folder put together by the people who wish to adopt of their life in a nutshell. There may be pictures of the family and a breakdown of what the couple do for a living, their age, their race, ect.) The feeling was so strong about the family that I decided to choose that it was unreal. Not all feelings are going to be like this but mine was. I had a very easy pregnancy and the family was by my side every step of the way. The more I get into the breakdown of the experience I will explain in depth what I went through and how my life was effected for the better.
I hope you come back soon, I am very excited to help the women who are just as scared as I was!
This blog is awesome and I will hopefully help some birth mothers. I have heard that woman who are 18 or 19 are more likely to do adoption than girls at 14 or 15 because they think they know everything at that age. At 18 or 19, a woman is more mature. You are so selfless and I am glad you have the opportunity to be a mommy to another child now.
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